Recently I received a request to talk about the difference between leadership and the control of others. So what is the difference? Do you lead or control others? In leadership it may seem like there is a fine line between controlling others and leading them, but in reality they are completely different. The biggest difference between the two is choice and accountability.
The controller uses a completely different set of tactics than a leader. They don’t give people the freedom to make choices. They use threats. For example, you may hear them say, “If you don’t do _______, I won’t do ______ for you.” Or you may even hear them say, “You do this, or you will get it.” You can fill in your own blanks.
Those who control others are very dominant on the outside, but insecure on the inside. They have the tendency to control because they don’t trust their followers. They don’t think people will follow them unless they are controlling over them. The controller also uses manipulation and/or blackmail. They tell people that if they don’t follow them, they will hold it against them.
A leader on the other hand is quite opposite from a controller. The leader teaches correct principles and leads by example. They help their followers understand all the underlying principles as to why they do what they do. Leaders get feedback and insight from their people.
Leaders have a different approach to leading because they feel that people will follow leaders if they do what is right. True leaders are not insecure because they are humble and know that they are doing what is right. They know they are doing their very best. Their is much more depth to a true leader.
What differences have you seen between controllers and leaders? How do you work with a controller so that you can be successful? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below!